Giddy love vs real relationships

I was chatting with a friend this week about her new relationship. I met her around three years ago and at the time she was dating a guy called Sam. You could tell she was head-over-heels in love with him - that real giddy type of love where she worshiped the ground he walked on and everything he did was perfect.

But the relationship did not last. He broke it off (and broke her heart), saying he wasn’t ready for anything more and ever since then she’s been dating on and off, with nothing serious eventuating.

Until now. She has recently met a man who sounds just wonderful. He takes her out to dinner, always calls when he says he will, treats her like a lady and shows her the respect she deserves. She clearly likes him as well but she is bothered that she doesn’t feel that giddy feeling that she had in her previous relationship. She misses the crazy butterflies/intensity which makes her question whether this relationship is the one for her.

In my experience, this is a great sign for a relationship that will last, rather than not. Relationships that start with the woman being wooed by the man, that are honest and calm right from the beginning, are the ones that seem to stick. I often wonder if many women reject many wonderful men for these reasons – they don’t feel all crazy and giddy so think that they aren’t really into the guy.

Don’t get me wrong – there has to be attraction in the first place for it to work. You can’t make something out of nothing. But sometimes you need to give a relationship time to let it develop as they usually end up being far deeper, more meaningful and more rewarding.